Reminders

There are some things in life, that seem to require ever constant promptings.

I received several such reminders tonight, and, perhaps, one of the most important of all, from a very dear friend, who has lived the words she spoke to me.

I have been putting off calling her for months, in fact, until a few hours ago, I had not realized, how many months had passed. So long, that we finally gave up on trying to recall how long it had been.

She and I are much alike, in how we deal with our emotions. When life feels messy, when we feel unsure, when we are hurting. We hide, we hole up in our little caves, behind the walls we build around ourselves to hide our vulnerability.

Tonight, I decided, that with all the changes in my life, it was important she learn them from me, not one of our small town gossips, but, from me.

She put such a smile in my heart. She gave me peace.

She has been hurting, grieving for over a year now. Dealing with the loss of her husband. I have been hurting, grieving the loss of my marriage. We were both hiding. Though, it seems, we were, both thinking about the other.

In our conversation, we shared so many small, but in their own way, very important things.

We spoke of the past, we spoke of finding ourselves, we spoke of dreams.

While I was speaking with her, I remembered why she is my friend, she remembered why I am her friend. We can be out of contact for months and months, and, yet, easily slip right back, as if no time at all has passed. She also reminded me of who I used to be, the best parts of me.

We give each other gifts. The best gifts of all. Gifts we all need in our lives.

Listening, Understanding, Support, Praise,
Strength, Love, Honesty, Trust, Peace.

Far more important, than even those gifts, she reminded me...................

We have to dream, we have do, and, if we feel something, we have to say it.

After all, we may not have tomorrow.